What are good alcoholic drinks (besides beer) for men to order at social functions?

I don't like beer but I'm never sure of what to order at a bar or restaurant as a 30+ guy who wants to network more. It's not like college where I can order a Long Island Iced Tea. Except for gin and tonic, or vodka tonics, what are good safe drinks to order to make you look hip and sophisticated? Can't do the girly drinks. If I just get straight scotch, people will think I'm trying too hard. Any suggestions of good drinks? And when you order something, do you always have to specify the type of vodka/gin/alcohol? (like gray goose?